Change is Hard.
“Don’t put all your eggs in one basket?”
Life changes fast, how do you cope, never mind joyfully?
No matter how hard we try to prepare for all the possible future options there is always one we don’t account for. You know it, because it hits you right between the eyes. SMACK.
Remember the perfectly packed car trip and then the dog pooped as you drove into New York City?
Or the job change you angsted over only to leave the job entirely due to life’s curveballs?
Everyone approaches change differently. Some people seem poised as life’s perfect planners. Others weigh their options and navigate difficult paths very deliberately. Some look at a giant cliff of major changes and jump off as fast as possible.
Are you a band-aid ripper/cliff jumper or a precise navigator of high seas?
Funny thing– it doesn’t matter which camp you fall into, you are going to have to deal with Big Life Changes that you did not plan for.
The biggest challenge lies in shifting your mindset. It takes time to grieve over the loss of the expected and turn your focus toward a different possibility.
Here is where you start telling yourself, “I am just going to build a new basket.”
Coping with Change by Building New
You have to be super human to anticipate every situation– but you can adapt to anything.
Instead of trying to cope with change using a plan that you were not that excited about, shift your focus to building a new, entirely different plan. You are the architect of your life. Are you going to make do with crappy blueprints drawn up before you got on site, or are you going to draw an entirely new plan that elegantly fits your new landscape?
We forget that we are the best person for the job of living our own life. No one does it better. Let go of what you thought it was going to look like and turn your attention to how skilled you are, how perfectly you can craft a new path forward. You may find you like your new basket even more than the last one.